“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back.”

~ Plato

Warmest congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

I’m so pleased that you have chosen to explore having me partner with you to co-create a personalized and memorable ceremony for your most special of days!

My focus is on your unique love story as a couple and creating a beautiful experience of this love for you and your guests as you and your beloved cross this magnificent threshold of unity together.

My goal as your ceremony specialist is to hold the space for sacredness, to exude your style, your preferences, and your traditions, and to create a one-of-a -kind celebration that will delight you.

Whether you are seeking a spiritual, religious, interfaith, or just a beautiful and simple ceremony, you can be assured that I’ll attentively listen to your desires and suggest readings, poems, prayers, quotes, and rituals to enhance your celebration of love.

For me, each ceremony is a sacred and life-affirming reflection
of the couple’s love who is being celebrated!

Welcoming & Heartwarming


A personalized, handcrafted, heartfelt 20–25-minute ceremony to reflect your unique dynamic as a couple and what you love and mean to each other.

Your choice of vows, readings, poems, and participation of your family.

Welcome elopements and very small gatherings.

Ceremony held at the venue of your choosing.

Arrival at your wedding 30 minutes in advance for coordination.

Your ceremony can be spiritual, religious, secular, or interfaith – of your choosing.

Of course, I am inclusive and welcoming to all couples.

Marriage license signed and filed with the County Register of Deeds.

Travel fee may apply depending on location.

Memorable & One-of-a-Kind


A unique, fully customized, heartfelt, and handcrafted 30 minute+ ceremony to reflect your love story, and your hopes and dreams for your future together.

Your choice of prayers, vows, readings, poems, rituals (e.g. unity sand ceremony, unity candle lighting, handfasting, wine sharing, rock blessing or others).

Coordinate fully with musicians, family members and friends’ participation.

Beautiful vows and ring exchange ceremony

Arrival at your wedding 45 minutes in advance for coordination.

Ceremony venue of your choosing.

Your ceremony can be spiritual, religious, secular, or interfaith – of your choosing.

Of course, I am inclusive and welcoming to all couples.

Marriage license signed and filed with the County Register of Deeds.

Travel fee may apply depending on location.

Additional Charges with Both Offerings

If you require a rehearsal there is an additional fee of $150.

There is a $.65 per mile charge for venues greater than 35 miles from my home in Harrison, TN.

Out-of-state, long-distance weddings will have the charge of airfare, rental car and overnight hotel stay.

My commitment is to create and officiate a treasured ceremony
that becomes a lovely experience for you and your guests!

“We had the joy of working with Mary as our wedding officiant. She was so flexible and kind, accommodating us wanting to include our daughter and our dogs in the ceremony. Her genuine concern for us and our guests really shone through, and she wanted to make sure that we really enjoyed our ceremony on our special day. Mary has an energy of love and joy that just exudes from her. We admitted to her that we weren’t the easiest couple to work with, but her patience and caring way made the whole process a wonderful one. We highly recommend her!”

~ Caitlyn and Hayden P.

“Mary is truly amazing! She made our wedding ceremony exceptionally special. We had a beautiful and intimate gathering on Lake Chickamauga, and Mary added a thoughtful touch by integrating wording into our ceremony related to voyaging together on the water – a perfect reflection of our venue. Despite the warm day and the bit of a trek through the woods to reach the ceremony spot, Mary’s joyous and enthusiastic presence made everything perfect for us. We are incredibly grateful that she was our officiant and helped make our day unforgettable!”

~Madalena and Jaime E.

“We feel incredibly fortunate to have had Mary as our wedding officiant. Despite having a short time to prepare and our choice of a remote location along the Tennessee River, Mary was warm, easy-going, and seamlessly professional. Especially when she partnered with us to include our two beloved dogs in the ceremony. We are so happy she was our officiant and recommend her wholeheartedly!”

~ Shawna and Brandon H.

“We reached out to Rev. Mary a few months in advance of our wedding. We had never met her, and we live in Nevada, but wanted to get married in Tennessee. Mary made working with her very easy, from hosting a Zoom call with us, to providing us with a draft proposal for our ceremony well in advance. She had amazing ideas for what we might want to add in terms of meaningful rituals, and we decided to do handfasting, which made our ceremony extra memorable! Because of time zone differences, the start of our ceremony was inadvertently delayed as we needed to wait for some key guests to arrive. Mary was completely flexible and joyous despite the delay. She has a wonderful warm presence that creates a welcoming and personal atmosphere. We are so grateful to Mary and glad we chose her as our officiant!”

~Carrina and Roy L.

“Rev. Mary Toland Shaw is my mom, and for our wedding ceremony in Sweden she provided beautiful ideas and blessed us with a lovely poem that she had researched. At our wedding, as she read it out, it deeply touched Oscar’s and my heart and all those in attendance. I’m so thankful that my mom has a calling to this work and heartfelt love for couples and marriage.”

~ Kristen and Oscar H.

If you’d like to explore my services as your Wedding Officiant:

Free 30-minute heart connection call with me, to see if this is right for you, just click to book a time convenient.